How I became dessert curious (and I’m not mad about it)

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Cutting alcohol out of my life was surprisingly easy. It started with a 30-day Dry June challenge, followed by a public declaration of identifying as sober curious.

In this article on VeryWellMind, Sara Sheppard says being sober curious is the option to choose, question, or change your drinking habits for…


Starting your own business doesn’t have to be a forever endeavor

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How many of us dream of making six figures by the time we’re 30?

That was my dream. Did I do it? No — it took me until I was 34.

I temporarily left the workforce right before my 30th birthday. Four years after stepping out of a mediocre salaried…


Recognizing and releasing an attachment-based lifestyle

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“Mom wishes she was a millionaire.” I overheard my son talking smack to my daughter in the car the other day.

I didn’t interrupt or correct him to say, “Um, buddy, Mom’s been a millionaire for a while now.”

Because I don’t talk about money with my kids. And, I…


I can’t stop eating my feelings — just yet.

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Pasta, ice cream, and a side of self-loathing, please.

That’s been my vibe all summer. Now, it’s time I take accountability for my last toxic relationship — not the one with my new sweet tooth — the one with my scale.

My back and forth between obsessing and avoiding what…


Musings from the Anniversary of Finding My Secret Brother

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“It became less important to me to fix my marriage once I focused on healing my relationship with my mom.”

This was my latest therapy breakthrough — admitting to my therapist that my feelings about my marriage eerily reflected my sentiments about my relationship with my mother.

Becoming aware of…


How to have the Big D conversation.

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Each of them felt uncomfortable asking me about it. The Big D, that is. Divorce.

But I reassured each woman that reached out to me (and there were several) that they were not the first (and will not be the last) to inquire about the inner workings of the decision…


And why I’m tired of worrying about judgment.

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In third grade, a girl in my class started an “I Hate Kristi Club.”

The Club leader wasn’t even a traditional mean girl. There was nothing extraordinary about her. She wasn’t the type to have gaggles of other girls following her.

Neither was I.

I have no idea why I…


What are you intended to do in this life?

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I walked away from my marriage and a net worth of over a million dollars to fulfill my life’s purpose.

That is: to heal. Bottom line, that’s it.

Maybe my soul has reincarnated the pain of previous lives? I don’t know. …


I accidentally normalized inappropriate behavior.

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“Something you said just didn’t sit right with me.” The hostess of my retreat said over the phone after our five-day-long magical getaway in the woods of Ohio. “Do you feel like you need to take further action on what happened?” She asked.

The incident she’s referring to was my…


Why I’ll Never Feel Like Me Again.

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I’m about to be SINGLE and FORTY. That statement sounds like the title of a B-list rom-com. Something tear-inducing and gut-wrenching.

Hasn’t it been like that, though? And don’t forget scary AF. Being alone at 39 and three-quarters (but who’s counting?) is a tough pill to swallow.

I don’t care…

Kristina Jancar

Fortune 100 Leader. Mama. Storyteller. Poet. Yoga Teacher. I feel my feelings—and I write about: Lifestyle | Health | Mindfulness | Self | Leadership✨

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