Life | Happiness | Mindfulness

The island mindset is something anyone can learn.

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The first word that comes to mind when I think back to the three summers I spent living on a remote island in my early 20s is freedom. I lived for the day, not for what I could get done on that day. Living on island time means letting go of schedule-driven obligations. Anyone who has ever lived or vacationed on an island can relate to that feeling of pure surrender.

There is no official dictionary definition for the phrase island time; however, most references agree this is a complimentary term — referring to time spent leisurely. …

Love that you write love letters to yourself ❤️

To be fair, I just learned how to make myself feel good, too.

Siloutte of a man’s back with arms stretched in a “T” for I Finally Figured Out How to Make My Husband Feel Good
Siloutte of a man’s back with arms stretched in a “T” for I Finally Figured Out How to Make My Husband Feel Good
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It only took a decade and a half, but I finally learned how to make my husband feel good.

I’m happy to share how I took what I learned from living my best life to connect the dots for the person I love. In fact, all I want to do is share what I’ve learned.

But something else has become very apparent on my journey to loving myself and my people more fully. I learned: His Needs > My Opinion.

Everyone’s needs are different. There might be aspects of my approach that speak to you, but for the most part…

I disconnected from reality and missed all the red flags.

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Why is it so hard to recognize red flags in real-time? It seems to be mostly in the rearview mirror that we see how far we veered off the path. I should have seen the darkness creeping in as I attained my “perfect on paper” life. But I ignored the signs. I became addicted to the dopamine-rush that came with what I thought was living my best life.

I lost myself in a fictional version of reality for over two years — almost like I lived inside a television drama series. How did it happen? …

3 Ways to reframe rejection.

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Rejection is my number one pain trigger. Here’s what comes to mind: not good enough, unlovable, unworthy, flawed.

Imagine my surprise last summer when I saw this quote from one of my favorite spiritual growth authors:

“When I see rejection as protection, I have the freedom to dream big and take fearless action.” Gabrielle Bernstein, Spirit Junkie App.

At first, I thought I didn’t read the phrase correctly. So, I did what I always do when confronted with something I’m struggling to process — I took the day to reflect and Googled it.

Comfort in the Discomfort

The reflection carried over to the following…

Growth Mindset | Self-Improvement | Life Lessons

What does “clear eyes, full heart, can’t lose” really mean?

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Tom Brady’s triumphant return to the Super Bowl has left many to reconsider whether it’s coaching or the player that makes victory possible? With Bill Belichick out of the picture, there is a sense of anticipation to see if the Brady we all love, or love to hate, will “show up” on Super Bowl Sunday and bring home the big “W.”

If the jury is out on which is more important, star player versus star coach, maybe we should look at what a good coach brings to the table? Certainly, my own days as a collegiate athlete bring to mind…

Poem | Poetry | Poet

The hill we collectively climbed.

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Last week, working from home allowed me to tune in to the inauguration in real-time. Sitting on my couch during my lunch break, I wasn’t expecting to be so moved by the inaugural poem.

Amanda Gorman’s words were profound. Her presence, rhythmic rendition, and diction were so on point. I immediately, girl crush cyber stalked her and found out that she was a 22-year-old highly acclaimed poet. I also found out that our nation instantly fell in love with her, as well.

I know why I fell in love with her words.

Besides the fact that I have recently re-taken…

4 pro tips for getting the job you’ve always wanted

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You can land your dream job despite being an outsider. You can get on the radar without ever having worked a day in that field.

I know this is possible because I did it multiple times.

I’m going to cut to the chase and give you the punchline. The secret to landing your dream job is this: be unapologetic about your personal value proposition (PVP).

According to the Harvard Business Review, a PVP is the heart of your career strategy. And I couldn’t agree more. …

Life | Mental Health | Self-Improvement

The must-have toolbox items to maintain your mental clarity.

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We did it. We made it through the first month, but 2021 has already been a long year. If you’re feeling a little stuck already, take a look at the tips and hacks that help me maintain a healthy mindset.

I’ve compiled a list of five essentials that help me stay on the mental health wagon.

But first, let me set your expectations about this list:

  • It’s more art than science.
  • If you read this list and say, “Hmmm, there are more than five things on this list?” I’d say: “Fair.” I’ve never been one for following rules.
  • Lastly, I’m…

Kristina Jancar

Boss babe is my day job. Storytelling is my passion. I feel my feelings. Also I do yoga 🧘🏻‍♀️ ...

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