I Think My Divorce Helped Me Heal My Generational Pain
Here’s what happened when I realized I “married my mother.”
“It became less important to me to fix my marriage once I focused on healing my relationship with my mom.”
This was my latest therapy breakthrough — admitting to my therapist that my feelings about my marriage eerily reflected my sentiments about my relationship with my mother.
Becoming aware of my mommy issues over the last year — and that I married someone just like my mother — means that I also just divorced my mother.
What kind of mommy issues did I have?
I would always seek out the unhealed — the emotionally unavailable people in the world. I was constantly trying to “fix” them.
To me, a fixer-upper = an opportunity to take a Grinch heart and make it grow three-sizes. To prove that I am truly lovable.
The relationship that started this addiction was the one with my mother. Well, our relationship B.B. — Before Brother.
It wasn’t until today that I thought to measure time in these increments:
- B.B. — Before Brother. Before I found out the family secret that changed my…
